Loss and Love
B.U.D.S. | Newsletter 16 | Strengthening The Bond | Part 2
Nothing cuts deeper than the loss of a loved one. Whether it’s a friend, parent, or partner.
Some wounds cut deeper than others.
A son. A daughter. A stillbirth or miscarriage.
It doesn’t matter when because it will never seem right.
But fate had other plans. As did you.
Once the seed was planted, you couldn’t help but dream of the future.
The quiet moments, soft songs, and hushed whispers.
The mundane moments, long walks, late nights, early mornings, and held hands.
The significant moments, birthday celebrations, milestone accomplishments, and commencements.
Sharing the secret connection only a Father and Daughter know, or a Mother and Son.
When they’re gone, before you’ve even had a chance to say goodbye, the pain never really leaves you. How could it?
I’m not sure. I’m trying to figure it out. Aren’t we all?
Strengthening The Bond
All you can do is attempt to pick up the pieces.
Find the courage to rekindle that vital connection lost in the storms of grief.
All it takes is an invitation. Over and over again.
A touch. A look. Her hand in yours.
Like the cosmic tango, we’re always in orbit.
With careful attention, compassion, and patience, the stars will realign.
And when you look up at the night sky, you’re reminded that everything you thought you lost is still present. It always was and always will be.
All you have to do is tend to it. Repair it. By all means necessary.
What’s helped me?
Discovering the solace in song. Finding medicine in movement. Realizing I don’t need to cross the chasm alone. Coming to grips with the fact that you need to embrace the journey, together. Healing as one.
If you’re on a similar path, my condolences and thoughts are with you. Good luck.
Thanks for reading.
Much love.
SG
Ni adiye Paani da Paani da
Rang chada ke aa
Song: Water | By: Diljit Dosanjh
My Interpretation: In love, take the color of water. Be transparent.
Build. Understand. Discipline. Stillness. “B.U.D.S” is written by me, Dr. Shawn Gill - I’m a pharmacist and Father of two boys. During the day, I work as a deprescribing pharmacist, helping patients get off drugs, safely and effectively. At night, I write this newsletter. B.U.D.S is a community that's focused on inspiring individuals to take account of their health and wellness, as well as reverse mental health and chronic disease. If you’d like to support this mission, please subscribe below. Much love. SG